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6 Reasons You Should Keep Doing One of the Easiest, Sexiest, Most Enjoyable Things In the World

15 Feb 2014 by Pragito Dove

We all like a good laugh, don’t we? It releases stress, puts us in a good mood, and generally makes us feel better about life.

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Were you taught in your childhood, as I was, to put a lid on your laughter and keep it down? I remember giggling in church, at school, on solemn occasions and getting frowned at by adults. This often made me laugh even more, as I tried to stuff down the irrepressible gales of guffaws welling up from deep inside me. Or maybe there wasn’t much to laugh about in your childhood.

Whatever the case, laughter has many dimensions of benefits for us. I have been practicing the *Laughter Meditation for over twenty-five years. My life has transformed and the same can happen for you. Laughter, and meditation, are good for us: physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Here are 6 amazing benefits of laughter:

1. Nourishes Relationships

Laughter draws people together, doesn’t it? Many couples who do the Laughter Meditation together tell me they find a tremendous improvement in their relating. They discover another side of each other, the playful, humorous side which gives a relief to the more serious part of life concerned with work, money, housework, the kids, etc. Remember the old adage: “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy”? Well, it doesn’t do much for Jill either!

Laughter improves relating with our children. They are our teachers in this regard. They laugh easily, and often. Children remind us of the magical qualities of wonder, imagination, spontaneity, playfulness, being fun and funny, which we all need to balance the stresses of life.

Relating with family members, colleagues at work, neighbors, people in the grocery store, commuters in traffic jams, for example, can be enhanced with laughter and smiles. Camaraderie is created, and a longing we all have for connection is fulfilled. Laughter heals feelings of isolation and separation and reminds us that we are all humans, living together on this earth. We all make mistakes and have flaws and laughter eases the wounds and reminds us that we are all loved and connected.(And I mean,of course, laughing with people, not at them.)

2. It’s Sexy

Laughter is a positive energy vibration and helps attract people to you that are good for you. It is beneficial for anyone who is sexually blocked. It releases inhibitions and opens up the energetic channels, bringing us directly in touch with our energy. The Law of Attraction states that you get what you vibrate. Laughter helps keep your energy at a highly positive vibrational level so you attract good things. And who isn’t sexy when they laugh?

3. It Opens Our Hearts

Laughter creates an opening to the love, compassion, courage, trust and intuitive wisdom that vibrates within us all. It’s difficult to hate a person you are laughing with. It’s difficult to be afraid of a person you are laughing with.

When we laugh we become more vulnerable, and approachable. We fall into trust and drop our defenses, becoming more willing to be flexible, and accepting. This helps towards preventing conflicts. Tensions are eased and we see one another’s points of view with more objectivity. As we become more relaxed, the world around us changes and becomes more relaxed.

Laughter brings a healing quality to our relationships and reminds us that, at the root, we all want the same things: to love, to be loved, and to be at peace.

4. It Enhances Our Creativity

The highest form of creativity is relationships. How many times have you been in a tense situation with your spouse, teenager, 2 year old, for example, where someone is reaching boiling point? A drama where saying the wrong thing can elicit an explosive reaction and create hurt feelings, resentment, and maybe revenge. When we are in a reactive state we unconsciously say things we don’t really mean(although we do in the moment we say it) and often regret later. We need our creativity at these moments to turn events in a positive direction.

After a long-time practice of laughter meditation I have noticed that as our energetic systems open up we are flooded with more creative energy. As old conditionings are released the unconscious opens and insights come. The relaxation of body and mind provides a gateway for creativity to come forward into expression. Spontaneously, in a tense situation, our creativity is available with just the right words to calm everyone down and find a solution. Our sense of humor, which is never far away, returns and love resurfaces to bring it’s healing powers to bear on everyone involved.

We all have a deep well of creativity inside us. If we repress and numb out our feelings, our creativity is also suppressed. Unused creativity gets metastasized into grief, anger and resentment. Laughter, playfulness, song, and dance help us cultivate our creativity, letting go of numbing and powerlessness, shame, fear, and comparison,and bringing our natural, spontaneous, creative self into expression. Anxiety and the insidious quiet messages we marinate in from abuse and neglect in childhood, dissolve as our natural joy, sense of humor, our imagination and dreams resurface. Our natural state of love, peace, creativity will always shine through any negative conditioning when we encourage it’s return.

5. It’s Rejuvenating and Keeps Us Young

When we laugh and smile we loosen up and generally feel better. The face collects a lot of our stress and when we laugh a tremendous amount of tension from the face, neck and
head is released. This gives us a more youthful appearance. It reminds us about having fun. Maybe today, do something just for the sheer fun of it. And think of the money you save on cosmetic procedures to make you look “younger”! Laughter radiates your youthful spirit through your eyes and whole being.

6. It Stimulates Physical Healing

*Scientific research has now proven that laughter does indeed, improve our health and well-being. If you can laugh when you are stressed, anxious, worried, even if you are ill, you feel better sooner. Laughter lowers blood pressure, boosts immune function, decreases stress hormones, relaxes muscles, assists in pain reduction (you can “forget” about the pain for a few moments),and is good cardiac exercise. Laughter brings energy from within you to heal, soothe, and inspire.

How Can Laughter Be A Meditation?

For those moments when you are totally laughing, you are free of the mind. All your problems disappear for a few moments, don’t they? In those seconds of hilarity you are brought from worry to joy, from tension to relaxation, from fear to trust, from timidity to courage. In other words, from the mind to the heart. You cannot think and laugh at the same time. You cannot be worried and laughing at the same time. In those moments when you are out of the mind you are in meditation. In those seconds the mind is not and you are, in the present moment. Laughter serves as a bridge to take us deeper into meditation, into peace, stillness, wisdom and joy.

Meditation is being in the present moment, aware and alert. Isn’t this the same experience when we laugh? When someone tells a joke, for example, and we suddenly burst into laughter, in those moments the mind,with all it’s “problems”, disappears and we just ARE, in the present moment, alert and aware. Have you noticed, when someone starts telling a joke, everyone is listening with undivided attention. We love to laugh, enjoy ourselves and have fun. It is a natural part of our nature.

Meditation is being in the present moment, fully aware of what the present moment contains.

The laughter meditation is powerful in its simple ability to transform and heal our relationships with ourselves, and with others. It an expressive technique, and has two stages, as described below. The first stage, laughter takes us deeper inside, paradoxically, as it’s an extrovert activity. The energy of laughter is a strong force that can dig through our conditionings, which are the blocks that prevent us connecting to our true, authentic self. Just try it now: “Ha,Ha,Ha” and experience how the energy is forging a path within you.

Laughter Meditation Exercise

Do this as often, and for as long as, you like. And remember to laugh, a lot, every day!

Step One: (One Minute)

Start laughing. You can shout out “Yahoo” three times and raise your arms up in the air, or use a funny Youtube video, or any idea you have to start yourself laughing. It’s easier, especially at the beginning, to do this with at least one other person. Do not speak in any language you understand. Just laugh.

Step Two: (One Minute)

Sit in silence with your eyes closed. If there is still laughter bubbling up, allow it. Do not repress your laughter. Eventually your laughter transforms into a joy-filled silence.

Experience Your Moments Of Joy

This might sound obvious, but a lot of us have a pattern of expecting the other shoe to drop when life is going well. We have been programmed with a mindset of fear, lack and scarcity, from our families, cultures, religions. This creates an unconscious fear of joy, laughter,and playfulness. We become afraid that, if we laugh too much, we maybe look silly, awkward, or “uncool”, make a fool of ourselves, or invite ridicule. You might even find it difficult to laugh for too long, if your energetic channels have been closed. You might even get angry when you are near people who are laughing a lot. “Why are they laughing so much? Life is not that great.” Maybe you were programmed with a “doom and gloom” attitude to life as I was, always expecting the worst to happen when you are enjoying yourself or when life is going really well. Thoughts like: “don’t enjoy yourself too much because soon everything will be difficult again”, “My life is going really well which means a disaster is waiting around the corner”. “There’s no point in enjoying this because all good things end and bad things return”. We cannot enjoy our joyful moments because these thoughts of imminent disaster ruin our present moment. We feel afraid of joy, and are threatened by too much laughter and playfulness.

Joy can be a terrifying emotion for some of you and is the most vulnerable of emotions. Can you EXPERIENCE your joy? Use it as a reminder to practice gratitude. Say to yourself; “What’s next?” And answer yourself: “ I don’t know but right now I’m grateful for this moment (rather than imagining a disaster).”

Bring awareness to these fear-based thoughts, and realize that they are a part of the fear,lack and scarcity mindset you have been programmed with. Don’t fight them. Instead, focus on bringing more laughter, playfulness, dancing, singing, fun activities into your life.

Love, joy and happiness are our natural state. Give yourself permission to enjoy your moments of joy fully, and they will grow.

*See research by Dr.Lee Berk and Dr. Stanley Tan of Loma Linda University in California 

Pragito Dove is a master trainer, international speaker, and meditation expert who teaches people how to transform pain and fear into joy and inner peace in order to achieve real world success. A best-selling author and thought leader on visionary thinking, she is dedicated to re-igniting passion and vision in people’s lives, and making abundance accessible to all. As a featured columnist on The Huffington Post, Pragito urges her readers to step into the greatest creative expression of who they are.

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***REPOSTER’S NOTE

Thank You to Finer Minds and Pragito Dove for this wonderful post. Laughter has been proven to be excellent medicine and a terrific life enhancer. Now go out and spread laughter, watch your world become a more joyful, healthier place to be right before your eyes.

10 Simple Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You Happier Science Proves

10 Simple Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You Happier Science Proves

***Reposters Note*** Thank You to riseearth.com and bufferapp.com for the information in this post. Happiness is something most of us would choose more of in our lives. Here are some ways to make that choice more of a reality in your life experience. Enjoy.***

Happiness is so interesting, because we all have different ideas about what it is and how to get it.

I would love to be happier, as I’m sure most people would, so I thought it would be interesting to find some ways to become a happier person that are actually backed up by science. Here are ten of the best ones I found.

1. Exercise more – 7 minutes might be enough

You might have seen some talk recently about the scientific 7 minute workout mentioned in The New York Times. So if you thought exercise was something you didn’t have time for, maybe you can fit it in after all.

happiness Exercise has such a profound effect on our happiness and well-being that it’s actually been proven to be an effective strategy for overcoming depression. In a study cited in Shawn Achor’s book, The Happiness Advantage, three groups of patients treated their depression with either medication, exercise, or a combination of the two. The results of this study really surprised me. Although all three groups experienced similar improvements in their happiness levels to begin with, the follow up assessments proved to be radically different:

The groups were then tested six months later to assess their relapse rate. Of those who had taken the medication alone, 38 percent had slipped back into depression. Those in the combination group were doing only slightly better, with a 31 percent relapse rate. The biggest shock, though, came from the exercise group: Their relapse rate was only 9 percent!

You don’t have to be depressed to gain benefit from exercise, though. It can help you to relax, increase your brain power and even improve your body image, even if you don’t lose any weight.

A study in the Journal of Health Psychology found that people who exercised felt better about their bodies, even when they saw no physical changes:

Body weight, shape and body image were assessed in 16 males and 18 females before and after both 6 × 40 mins exercise and 6 × 40 mins reading. Over both conditions, body weight and shape did not change. Various aspects of body image, however, improved after exercise compared to before.

We’ve explored exercise in depth before, and looked at what it does to our brains, such as releasing proteins and endorphins that make us feel happier, as you can see in the image below.

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2. Sleep more – you’ll be less sensitive to negative emotions

We know that sleep helps our bodies to recover from the day and repair themselves, and that it helps us focus and be more productive. It turns out, it’s also important for our happiness.

In NutureShock, Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman explain how sleep affects our positivity:

Negative stimuli get processed by the amygdala; positive or neutral memories gets processed by the hippocampus. Sleep deprivation hits the hippocampus harder than the amygdala. The result is that sleep-deprived people fail to recall pleasant memories, yet recall gloomy memories just fine.

In one experiment by Walker, sleep-deprived college students tried to memorize a list of words. They could remember 81% of the words with a negative connotation, like “cancer.” But they could remember only 31% of the words with a positive or neutral connotation, like “sunshine” or “basket.”

The BPS Research Digest explores another study that proves sleep affects our sensitivity to negative emotions. Using a facial recognition task over the course of a day, the researchers studied how sensitive participants were to positive and negative emotions. Those who worked through the afternoon without taking a nap became more sensitive late in the day to negative emotions like fear and anger.

Using a face recognition task, here we demonstrate an amplified reactivity to anger and fear emotions across the day, without sleep. However, an intervening nap blocked and even reversed this negative emotional reactivity to anger and fear while conversely enhancing ratings of positive (happy) expressions.

Of course, how well (and how long) you sleep will probably affect how you feel when you wake up, which can make a difference to your whole day. Especially this graph showing how your brain activity decreases is a great insight about how important enough sleep is for productivity and happiness:

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Another study tested how employees’ moods when they started work in the morning affected their work day.

Researchers found that employees’ moods when they clocked in tended to affect how they felt the rest of the day. Early mood was linked to their perceptions of customers and to how they reacted to customers’ moods.

And most importantly to managers, employee mood had a clear impact on performance, including both how much work employees did and how well they did it.

Sleep is another topic we’ve looked into before, exploring how much sleep we really need to be productive.

3. Move closer to work – a short commute is worth more than a big house

Our commute to the office can have a surprisingly powerful impact on our happiness. The fact that we tend to do this twice a day, five days a week, makes it unsurprising that its effect would build up over time and make us less and less happy.

According to The Art of Manliness, having a long commute is something we often fail to realize will affect us so dramatically:

… while many voluntary conditions don’t affect our happiness in the long term because we acclimate to them, people never get accustomed to their daily slog to work because sometimes the traffic is awful and sometimes it’s not. Or as Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert put it, “Driving in traffic is a different kind of hell every day.”

We tend to try to compensate for this by having a bigger house or a better job, but these compensations just don’t work:

Two Swiss economists who studied the effect of commuting on happiness found that such factors could not make up for the misery created by a long commute.

4. Spend time with friends and family – don’t regret it on your deathbed

Staying in touch with friends and family is one of the top five regrets of the dying. If you want more evidence that it’s beneficial for you, I’ve found some research that proves it can make you happier right now.

Social time is highly valuable when it comes to improving our happiness, even for introverts. Several studies have found that time spent with friends and family makes a big difference to how happy we feel, generally.

I love the way Harvard happiness expert Daniel Gilbert explains it:

We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have friends and almost all the other things we think make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends.

George Vaillant is the director of a 72-year study of the lives of 268 men.

In an interview in the March 2008 newsletter to the Grant Study subjects, Vaillant was asked, “What have you learned from the Grant Study men?” Vaillant’s response: “That the only thing that really matters in life are your relationships to other people.”

He shared insights of the study with Joshua Wolf Shenk at The Atlantic on how the men’s social connections made a difference to their overall happiness:

The men’s relationships at age 47, he found, predicted late-life adjustment better than any other variable, except defenses. Good sibling relationships seem especially powerful: 93 percent of the men who were thriving at age 65 had been close to a brother or sister when younger.

In fact, a study published in the Journal of Socio-Economics states than your relationships are worth more than $100,000:

Using the British Household Panel Survey, I find that an increase in the level of social involvements is worth up to an extra £85,000 a year in terms of life satisfaction. Actual changes in income, on the other hand, buy very little happiness.

I think that last line is especially fascinating: Actual changes in income, on the other hand, buy very little happiness. So we could increase our annual income by hundreds of thousands of dollars and still not be as happy as if we increased the strength of our social relationships.

The Terman study, which is covered in The Longevity Project, found that relationships and how we help others were important factors in living long, happy lives:

We figured that if a Terman participant sincerely felt that he or she had friends and relatives to count on when having a hard time then that person would be healthier. Those who felt very loved and cared for, we predicted, would live the longest.

Surprise: our prediction was wrong… Beyond social network size, the clearest benefit of social relationships came from helping others. Those who helped their friends and neighbors, advising and caring for others, tended to live to old age.

5. Go outside – happiness is maximized at 13.9°C

In The Happiness Advantage, Shawn Achor recommends spending time in the fresh air to improve your happiness:

Making time to go outside on a nice day also delivers a huge advantage; one study found that spending 20 minutes outside in good weather not only boosted positive mood, but broadened thinking and improved working memory…

This is pretty good news for those of us who are worried about fitting new habits into our already-busy schedules. Twenty minutes is a short enough time to spend outside that you could fit it into your commute or even your lunch break.

A UK study from the University of Sussex also found that being outdoors made people happier:

Being outdoors, near the sea, on a warm, sunny weekend afternoon is the perfect spot for most. In fact, participants were found to be substantially happier outdoors in all natural environments than they were in urban environments.

The American Meteorological Society published research in 2011 that found current temperature has a bigger effect on our happiness than variables like wind speed and humidity, or even the average temperature over the course of a day. It also found that happiness is maximized at 13.9°C, so keep an eye on the weather forecast before heading outside for your 20 minutes of fresh air.

6. Help others – 100 hours a year is the magical number

One of the most counterintuitive pieces of advice I found is that to make yourself feel happier, you should help others. In fact, 100 hours per year (or two hours per week) is the optimal time we should dedicate to helping others in order to enrich our lives.

If we go back to Shawn Achor’s book again, he says this about helping others:

…when researchers interviewed more than 150 people about their recent purchases, they found that money spent on activities—such as concerts and group dinners out—brought far more pleasure than material purchases like shoes, televisions, or expensive watches. Spending money on other people, called “prosocial spending,” also boosts happiness.

The Journal of Happiness Studies published a study that explored this very topic:

Participants recalled a previous purchase made for either themselves or someone else and then reported their happiness. Afterward, participants chose whether to spend a monetary windfall on themselves or someone else. Participants assigned to recall a purchase made for someone else reported feeling significantly happier immediately after this recollection; most importantly, the happier participants felt, the more likely they were to choose to spend a windfall on someone else in the near future.

So spending money on other people makes us happier than buying stuff for ourselves. What about spending our time on other people? A study of volunteering in Germany explored how volunteers were affected when their opportunities to help others were taken away:

Shortly after the fall of the Berlin Wall but before the German reunion, the first wave of data of the GSOEP was collected in East Germany. Volunteering was still widespread. Due to the shock of the reunion, a large portion of the infrastructure of volunteering (e.g. sports clubs associated with firms) collapsed and people randomly lost their opportunities for volunteering. Based on a comparison of the change in subjective well-being of these people and of people from the control group who had no change in their volunteer status, the hypothesis is supported that volunteering is rewarding in terms of higher life satisfaction.

In his book Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being, University of Pennsylvania professor Martin Seligman explains that helping others can improve our own lives:

…we scientists have found that doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.

7. Practice smiling – it can alleviate pain

Smiling itself can make us feel better, but it’s more effective when we back it up with positive thoughts, according to this study:

A new study led by a Michigan State University business scholar suggests customer-service workers who fake smile throughout the day worsen their mood and withdraw from work, affecting productivity. But workers who smile as a result of cultivating positive thoughts – such as a tropical vacation or a child’s recital – improve their mood and withdraw less.

Of course it’s important to practice “real smiles” where you use your eye sockets. It’s very easy to spot the difference:

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According to PsyBlog, smiling can improve our attention and help us perform better on cognitive tasks:

Smiling makes us feel good which also increases our attentional flexibility and our ability to think holistically. When this idea was tested by Johnson et al. (2010), the results showed that participants who smiled performed better on attentional tasks which required seeing the whole forest rather than just the trees.

A smile is also a good way to alleviate some of the pain we feel in troubling circumstances:

Smiling is one way to reduce the distress caused by an upsetting situation. Psychologists call this the facial feedback hypothesis. Even forcing a smile when we don’t feel like it is enough to lift our mood slightly (this is one example of embodied cognition).

One of our previous posts goes into even more detail about the science of smiling.

8. Plan a trip – but don’t take one

As opposed to actually taking a holiday, it seems that planning a vacation or just a break from work can improve our happiness. A study published in the journal, Applied Research in Quality of Life showed that the highest spike in happiness came during the planning stage of a vacation as employees enjoyed the sense of anticipation:

In the study, the effect of vacation anticipation boosted happiness for eight weeks.

After the vacation, happiness quickly dropped back to baseline levels for most people.

Shawn Achor has some info for us on this point, as well:

One study found that people who just thought about watching their favorite movie actually raised their endorphin levels by 27 percent.

If you can’t take the time for a vacation right now, or even a night out with friends, put something on the calendar—even if it’s a month or a year down the road. Then whenever you need a boost of happiness, remind yourself about it.

9. Meditate – rewire your brain for happiness

Meditation is often touted as an important habit for improving focus, clarity and attention span, as well as helping to keep you calm. It turns out it’s also useful for improving your happiness:

In one study, a research team from Massachusetts General Hospital looked at the brain scans of 16 people before and after they participated in an eight-week course in mindfulness meditation. The study, published in the January issue of Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, concluded that after completing the course, parts of the participants’ brains associated with compassion and self-awareness grew, and parts associated with stress shrank.

Meditation literally clears your mind and calms you down, it’s been often proven to be the single most effective way to live a happier live. I believe that this graphic explains it the best:

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According to Shawn Achor, meditation can actually make you happier long-term:

Studies show that in the minutes right after meditating, we experience feelings of calm and contentment, as well as heightened awareness and empathy. And, research even shows that regular meditation can permanently rewire the brain to raise levels of happiness.

The fact that we can actually alter our brain structure through mediation is most surprising to me and somewhat reassuring that however we feel and think today isn’t permanent.

10. Practice gratitude – increase both happiness and life satisfaction

This is a seemingly simple strategy, but I’ve personally found it to make a huge difference to my outlook. There are lots of ways to practice gratitude, from keeping a journal of things you’re grateful for, sharing three good things that happen each day with a friend or your partner, and going out of your way to show gratitude when others help you.

In an experiment where some participants took note of things they were grateful for each day, their moods were improved just from this simple practice:

The gratitude-outlook groups exhibited heightened well-being across several, though not all, of the outcome measures across the 3 studies, relative to the comparison groups. The effect on positive affect appeared to be the most robust finding. Results suggest that a conscious focus on blessings may have emotional and interpersonal benefits.

The Journal of Happiness studies published a study that used letters of gratitude to test how being grateful can affect our levels of happiness:

Participants included 219 men and women who wrote three letters of gratitude over a 3 week period.

Results indicated that writing letters of gratitude increased participants’ happiness and life satisfaction, while decreasing depressive symptoms.

Quick last fact: Getting older will make yourself happier

As a final point, it’s interesting to note that as we get older, particularly past middle age, we tend to grow happier naturally. There’s still some debate over why this happens, but scientists have got a few ideas:

Researchers, including the authors, have found that older people shown pictures of faces or situations tend to focus on and remember the happier ones more and the negative ones less.

Other studies have discovered that as people age, they seek out situations that will lift their moods — for instance, pruning social circles of friends or acquaintances who might bring them down. Still other work finds that older adults learn to let go of loss and disappointment over unachieved goals, and hew their goals toward greater wellbeing.

So if you thought being old would make you miserable, rest assured that it’s likely you’ll develop a more positive outlook than you probably have now.

Photo credit: Spencer Finnley

Source: bufferapp.com

Choosing your expectations

Choosing your expectations



If you’re convinced that the world is against you, then you’ll find plenty of evidence to support your assumption. If, on the other hand, you’re certain that you’ll encounter support and assistance, you will.

When you look for excuses and reasons to complain, you’ll surely find them in abundance. When you look for possibilities, and goodness, love and kindness, you’ll find no shortage of those things.

What you see in life is made up largely of what you’ve already decided to look for. What you experience each day is driven by what you expect the day to bring.

You can choose the quality of the life you live by choosing your expectations. You can select the life you experience by choosing the way you experience it.

Make life helpful and supportive by living in a helpful and supportive way. Make life good by appreciating and adding to the goodness.

What you expect at the deepest, most sincere and unquestioned level, is what you get. So expect the very best of life, and live to make it so.

— Ralph Marston

Suggestions to live a Rich and Fulfilling Life

Suggestions to live a rich and fulfilling life # 01 by Rene Hamilton
by Rene Hamilton (Notes) on Wednesday, March 27, 2013 at 1:06am
Thank You Rene!  Rene is a friend and a sage – he got it at a young age and has been experiencing life in it’s fullness. His facebook posts always expand your body, mind, spirit, understanding or give you an unexpected chuckle from time to time.

Suggestions to live a Rich and Fulfilling Life

Do whatever you do with integrity – “integrity meaning self truthfullness”. Even if you do not do something in full intergrity, then recognize that you are doing so.

Do not beat yourself up over not being truthful to yourself. Remain neutral, but watch and observe what develops in your experience, whether it be of integrity or not… We Grow with experience. However when we judge ourselves based on our experience… then we stop feeling fulfilled. Experiences are Temporary Happenings to be observed, not judged.We are that which experiences, However we are not the experience itself exclusively. Judging ourselves is like throwing mud on the sun and saying the sun is now dark. Now imagine.. each thought and judgement we have is like mud… It Darkens and hides the light out of whatever it is being directed at, and we can no longer see the eternal joy and light in anything else… or ourselves for that matter.

Judgments are made out of Mana or otherwise know as illusions or thought forms. Your mind is very skilled at unconsciously manipulating that Mana / Illusion / thought form material.  Each judgement superimposes itself over your natural Unlimited creator given brilliant clear joyful paradise vision. Manipulating your true Joy experience and vision into a dark maze of limited and complex idea’s that literally has seemingly sucked the joy out of almost every moment of life’s experiences. All judgements are based on Fear and to a lesser degree Assumption based. All judgements stem from the Ego. The Part of you that is living in temporary Delusion as to what your true nature really is. We can call the ego a confused child, who was brought up and raised on lies and misunderstandings.The Ego is not bad or good. Only Confused. Yet we need the Ego to experience life as individuals, if that is the path that we are living. There may come a instant where you no longer feel you are interested in illusion and let go of the Ego and all of the drama and delusion it brings with it, thereby living in truth, beauty and joy!

It may be a gradual transition or happen in an instant! You the individual will no longer exist. Yet you will be replaced by pure unlimited wisdom, pure unlimited love and pure unlimited beingness. Even in this Replacement you will notice.. that you are still here and never left. The only difference will be that you are now everywhere and nowhere instead of just one place.

We are swimming in an ocean of love…yet we are projecting a personalized movie of pain an sorrow on top of that ocean of pure love…All we need to do is to give up our stories, let it all go… we are addicted to our own story even though it brings us so much pain.

The good news is…. is that we were never that story or the projections the story brought forth. It was all Mana / illusion / thought forms. Now that you realize the power of thoughts…

You have three options.

1.) Continue on as normal.. projecting your story or pain, lack and sorrow, which is Pure Chaos Illusion.

2.) Change the story / thoughts and create a whole new amazing life experience, which is essentially controlled and consciously directed illusion, which is can hold higher levels of happiness yet will still hold some degree of suffering and confusion.

3.) Get rid of all the thoughts and story’s all together and experience the ultimate unimaginable joy, love and magic in perfect clarity.

Whichever choice you make… Don’t judge it… just enjoy the experience. This is why you are here… to Enjoy the Experience of Experience.

Rene in true love.

Rene writes the truth – change your mind and change your life experience! An open mind allows  – judgement limits. Do your best always to live in your integrity – allow others to choose their own way.

Stop judging because you never never know the whole story even if it is your own. We are not all seeing. No matter what happens remember “And this too shall Pass”

Look for the lessons – they are always there.

Be grateful and loving and you will be blessed with a more vibrant joyful life experience!

You think what you want is what you need. That is usually not true. We are living in a very material time – you may want a million dollar house but do you need it. Most likely not.

A fear based mentality gave me grey hair at an early age and worry robbed me of so much, fun, time, energy and joy. I was a professional at judging and worrying. When I actually had to face those fears head on – the resourceful me found workable solutions. A smile and a positive attitude brings a multitude of people and solutions out of the wood work to assist you.

Find you spiritual self – it will be grateful to be here to experience life in all of it’s fullness. recognize how magnificent the planet, universe,every plant, animal, bird, sunrise , sunset are……….

Expect that you don’t know : what your next adventure is, the next interesting person you will meet, what interesting information you will find, where your next chuckle or tear will come from, what old friend will re-appear, who needs the information or perspective you have. Don’t judge – just go with it and have some fun. You will be amazed at what wonderful gifts the universe has in store when you have an open mind and allow!

Be generous in word and deed.  Money is only one solution but your humanity is who you are not your bank account or lack there of – I will take love, friendship, joy and a helping hand. Some of the truly most wonderful people I have known, have cared the least about material things – they have cared about people and experiences. Our material needs often get confused with wants. Remember the more stuff you own the more of your life is spent managing and taking care of it. Make sure you leave enough of you to enjoy the experience of living and being.

Deb.